Last night at pool league was interesting. On the one hand, the handicap system worked exactly as it should. We were giving up 8 points a round, and won three of six rounds. We lost the final sixth round by 30 points, but had handicaps not been in play, we would have won by 10. They equalized things quite nicely.
On the other hand, the other team was composed of 6’s and 7’s that were playing like 8’s and 9’s. It’s frustrating to be in game against a 6, only to realize in the time it took you to get your drink from the waitress, your opponent has broken and run down to the 8.
I honestly don’t think they’re sandbagging, or this post would have an entirely different slant. I just think the table was working for them just a *little* better than it was for us. We probably went in a little cocky, but were able to recover enough to come out even.
On another note, one of the fellas on my team (I’m the captain, btw, nice to meet you) is… how can I put this nicely… a bit melodramatic. He tends to get real upset when he misses. I’ll never forget the end of the first match this session. He’d lost his last game and was crying. Seriously. There’s no crying in pool.
When we try to talk to him about what might have gone wrong, he resists any personal responsibility. When we try to coach him, he insists on doing it his own way, even when he asked for the coaching. When we point out flaws in his form, weaknesses in his fundamentals, he gives exasperated “I know… I know…” responses, and yet fails to take any suggestions onto the table.
You can’t expect the results before the effort.
I’m no pro by any stretch of the imagination, but I have thousands of competitive games under my belt to his dozens. There are people I know I could learn a lot from, just as this fella, were he open to it, could learn a lot from me. I’m nowhere near perfect. I’m so imperfect it’s comedy. However, my fundamentals are further along, and I can see some glaring and ongoing bad habits.
I’m not the only to have noticed this, but I have taken my own sweet time recognizing and accepting the fact that he doesn’t have the right mind for the game. At least not right now.
His mind, basically, is one of entitlement. He expects the table to give up the pockets to him freely, without him having to pay the table first.
It’s an unforgiving and unbending rule. It simply doesn’t work that way. You pay the table in time well spent practicing, playing, and competing. You give her time, energy and commitment, and when she feels you’ve proven yourself, she will start opening the pockets. You can’t expect the results before the effort. Unfortunately, this fella has a hard time with that concept.
I remember having a conversation with a teammate years ago. Mike was a fantastic player and, had he committed himself to the game, could have gone pro. I was expressing frustration that I wasn’t running as many racks as I thought I should. His response was simply “Really.” It was spoken more as a statement than a question. I wasn’t a horrible player at the time, but there were (are) so many areas to improve, he just didn’t know where to begin.
I imagine the same conversation between myself and the fella on my team now. Him: “I can’t believe I missed that shot!” Me: “Really.” There are so many areas wrong, starting with his mindset and continuing with the very fundamentals of stance and stroke, that I just don’t know where to start. Maybe I could start by saying “I can.”
I know how Mike felt now, when I was talking with him then. The difference is, I was eager to don the hat of humility and listen. I did so many times, and my game improved dramatically. The fella now isn’t.
It’s frustrating to watch this guy self destruct at the table and beat himself over and over again. It’s more frustrating to try and help and constantly feel like I’m wasting my time.